Onе thing I’ve learned in all my years dealing with half-naked females is that most £ women aren’t happy with the way they look. No matter what, there’s always something that makes us feel inadequate—we’re not thin enough, attractive enough, smart enough, rich enough, loved enough. Such image and self-esteem issues keep us from feeling positive about ourselves—or only feeling good when we get complimented or praised by someone else. When you buy lingerie that makes you feel better, you start to take life by the horns. No more sitting there like a lady-in-waiting, hoping that somebody will come by, scoop you up, and whisk you off to the life you always dreamed about. And though lingerie may seem like a frivolous indulgence to some, it’s actually a realistic way to take control of your life and happiness. Buying the right lingerie is no small, insignificant step. After all, it’s not superficial to address the very issues that eat away at you. In that regard, lingerie is cheaper than therapy. And as far as I’m concerned, lingerie is therapy.
Though lingerie may seem like a frivolous indulgence to some, it’s actually a realistic way to lake control of your own happiness.
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As for your actual body, lingerie can physically transform it, immediately. Let’s face it, no matter how you looked ten years ago or plan to look in ten months, right now you look the way you look. It’s not so easy to change your body; but you can easily update packaging.
A lot of women believe they have to have the body of a lingerie model to warrant owning an underwear drawer full of beautiful things. They’re afraid they might not look good enough in lingerie. This is especially true for the curvy girls (which is my term for women with fuller bodies—I find the term plus-size offensive and would never want to be called that myself). I’ve had curvy girls in my shop literally cry with joy when they find a bra or other piece of lingerie that fits them properly— and even looks dainty, not matronly.
I’ve bumped into customers at restaurants and they’ve brought me to meet their friends—they’ve even flashed me! And I’ve witnessed smaller-chested girls see their reflections in the dressing room mirror and scream, “Oh. My. God. I have boobs!” After a lifetime of feeling like misfits because of mis-fits, many believe that nothing is meant for their bodies and everything looks bad on them. The styles and shapes they want are not made or readily available, so they stop trying. I’m here to say, don’t give up!
I can’t blame the woman who feels she’s been burned in the past or is too intimidated to look for lingerie because her body Joes or doesn’t look a certain way. We all bold ourselves to impossibly high standards. I love lingerie more than, well, most anyone, but I have plenty of things I’d like to change about my own body. This might surprise a lot of people because I’m very bold with my lingerie, but at some point you have to get over your insecurities. I certainly don’t let mine stop me. Personally, wearing lingerie has made me appreciate different aspects of my body, instead of focusing on the parts I’d rather forget about. Let me take that back; it does let me forget about them—at least temporarily!
With lingerie, nothing is set in skin and hones. Why focus on what you cannot fix when there are so many ways to amplify, accentuate, and emphasize what you’ve got? And you can even change it on a daily basis. Lingerie brings out the best. It can hide, distract from, or downplay any imperfection. Some garments are actually designed to do just that. The right bra can make a woman look like she’s lost fifteen pounds or boost small breasts into eyecatching decollete. Pairing pants or a skirt with the proper panties guarantees the end of visible panty lines (VPL). Those ridges and ripples created by the elastic bands on most panties are an evil that is far from necessary. Shapewear can give you what Mother Nature did not: a flatter stomach and thighs that look as free from cellulite as a twelve-year-olds. Did I mention the possibilities of the perfectly proportioned curves of a movie star on the red carpet? (You better believe she’s thankful for the control undergarments that create this illusion!) Stockings upgrade your legs the way lipstick highlights a kissable pout. Underneath the lingerie, it’s still you, only better. In this age of enhancement, implants, injections, and extreme makeovers, lingerie increases the sexiness without the surgery.
Some types of lingerie may not reshape your body, but are so beautiful they outshine anything you might be worried about. I call it the lingerie mystique—that hidden intrigue that creates the allure. This is where the seductive element of lingerie really comes forth. I guarantee that you can blind a lover to your flaws by wearing certain undergarments. Trust me, with that silky blue chemise enveloping your body, the last thing hell be noticing is your cellulite. But I’m less concerned with pleasing him, and more with helping you enjoy yourself. If you’re happy and into it, he’ll vicariously reap the benefits.
Listen to me: We’ve all been known to position ourselves so that we’re seen at our best angle. But all this self-consciousness detracts from the moment. Lingerie is a visual trick that draws attention to the places you want to be seen, and away from those you’d prefer to hide. Worried about a bulging belly? A babydoll, slip, or floaty camisole diverts attention from your stomach. Don’t feel so good about your derriere? A thong or lacy panty is a distracting invitation to a party that a lover can only hope he’ll be invited to attend. Lingerie is an embellishment, a flag of femininity that calls attention to itself. The benefit? You can relax. It conceals as much as it reveals, and the varying degrees of exposure are entirely up to you. But remember this: It takes more nerve to be naked than to wear a negligee!
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